Shabbat Vayeitzei 5778–Shabbat Torah Study–More Strength than You Thought Possible

Jacob finally arrives in Haran fourteen years after fleeing home to avoid Esau’s revenge. His mission now is to fulfill his parents’ instructions to find a wife among his mother’s people. On arrival and waking from the famous ladder dream, Jacob finds a group of shepherds waiting for other shepherds needed to help roll a stone off the mouth off a well. Genesis 29:9. While speaking with the shepherds, it turns out that Jacob is in the exact place that Rachel will arrive, bringing her own flock. Jacob sees her and rolls the stone off the well by himself!

Have you ever felt like you were actually watching God’s plan unfold? Have you ever felt that you were in the plan and an important part of it? Have you ever felt that something could not just be a coincidence? The Sages say that this is exactly what happened to Jacob. He was completely overwhelmed by witnessing the hand of God. After 14 years away from home and suddenly arriving in Haran, the first woman he would meet would be the woman he was intended and destined to meet; none other than Rachel.

Jacob was so inspired, so moved, so excited and so empowered by personally experiencing this providence that he drew the strength to move the well stone himself. Though Jacob is described earlier as the mild man of the tent, compared to Esau pictured as the burly hunter of the outdoors, we can see that Jacob was a man of strength too, not merely brains. The midrash is that during the 14 years between home and Haran, Jacob studied at the Yeshiva of Shem and Eber in preparation for dealing with the Laban’s chicanery. It may be that the Yeshiva had a gym there for Jacob to work out in.

Have you ever been surprised at you own strength—mental or physical—courage, perseverance or drive? Was it in response to inspiration? Desperation? Adversity? Didn’t know that you had it in you? Look at what you can be accomplish.

This Shabbat we do not have a formal Torah Study, but a wonderfully warm Shabbat community awaits you anyway!

Have a great Shabbat,

Paul Magy

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Parashat Chayei Sara 5778–Torah Study–Ruth Bergman–The greatest value for a spouse–Hospitality

This week’s Parasha finds our patriarch Isaac a mate.

Do you believe in a b’shayrt (predestined soul mate)?

Do you believe in matchmaking?

Would your parents have selected the spouse you chose (or may be choosing)?

Would you have appreciated their involvement?

Did they approve of your choice or will they? What if they did not or will not?

Of course, if you believe in a b’shayrt and in the sanctity of marriage, it may not matter how you found each other.

We do not hear that Isaac complained or expressed anxiety over possibly being a sacrifice on the altar on Moriah. We also do not hear him express any anxiety at the marriage altar.

In each case he is trusting of his father and the will of God. Indeed, we read that Isaac loved Rebecca using words that describe feelings in a relationship and a depth of emotion, not just the marital act.

For those who question Isaac’s relationship with his father after the akeidah test, would you not also have Isaac appreciate his father finding Rebecca, the love of his life for him?

This Shabbat, we are privileged to learn with Ruth Bergman. She will discuss the story and talk about the most important trait the Abraham’s servant was looking for in a mate for Isaac—hachnasat orchim…hospitality.
9;45 a.m. in the Shiffman Chapel.

We welcome you to this great learning experience whether you have come before, come regularly or never have. It has never been easier to build some new relationships, make new friends, be a part of a learning chavurah or just get a little more God in your life.

Come as you are. Stay as long as you like.

Shabbat Shalom,


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Shabbat Lech L’cha 5778–Paul Magy’s Shabbat Torah Study– Where Are You Going?

And so the journey begins. “Lech L’cha…” Avram and Sarai are told. Genesis 12:1.

God uses a lot of words for what should be a simple instruction. Instead of God just saying “Lech” – “Go” to Eretz Yisrael, God says:

1) Lech L’cha— Go get yourself
2) May’artzecha—from your land
3) U’memolodetcha—from your birthplace
4) U’mebayt Aveecha—from your parent’s house
5) El Eretz Asher Arecka—to the Land that I will show you.

I recently had shared with me a word of Torah attributed to the Lubavitcher Rebbe Menachem Shneerson, z’l who was a firm believer that every word of Torah has perpetual relevance. The Rabbis teach us of the Torah in general and Genesis in particular —“Maasei Avot, siman l’banim.” We are to learn from the stories of our ancestors. The Torah is not a history book of the past, but a guide book for the future.

Correlating with the words above, the Rebbe taught that:

1) the word “L’cha” is important in order to realize that even if a journey will be a schlepp and you will be tired along the way, you must approach every task with your full being.

2) leaving your land was to tell Avram and all subsequent generations that we have to focus on our inner spirit that is infinite and not on our mere surroundings

3) leaving your birthplace means that it is possible to transcend and leave behind childish things and to be confident, strong and mature

4) leaving your parent’s house means that God looks to each of us to grow and go beyond our comfort zones in pursuit of all that God, Torah and Judaism hold dear.

5) “To the Land that I will show you” reminds us that there is a plan for each of us and it requires faith in the Almighty.

If you do these things, God tells us through Avram and Sarai that we will be blessed and so much more. Genesis 12:2-3.

We are each on a journey of one kind or another. The message of Lech l’cha resonates today.

This Shabbat we learn with Melissa Ser at 9:45. Find us in the Shiffman Chapel. Come as you are. Stay as long as you like.

Shabbat shalom,


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Shabbat Shabbaton — Yom Kippur 5778–Yom Kippur/Yom HaKippurim

I read recently that we sometimes refer to Yom Kippur as “Yom HaKippurim.” This is not just the Day of Atonement (singular), but a Day of Atonements (plural). What can that mean? We seek forgiveness for ourselves. We seek forgiveness for our families. We seek forgiveness for the sins of our relatives, now deceased (for instance pledging Tzedaka in their memory). There is an interesting Midrash that as we seek forgiveness from God, God also seeks forgiveness, faith, trust and understanding from us!

The Almighty knows that we do not and cannot fully understand God’s ways. As parents we may ask our children to do things our way, to trust us because we know better and to have faith that one day they will come to understand. Even more, we tell them that one day they will thank us for what we have required of them or how we may punish them. Yet, we ask them to forgive us for the stress, anxiety or even pain we may cause them as we help them to grow into mature, contributing adults in our society.

Has anyone ever used the cliché expression that this hurts me more than it hurts you? Is it hard to imagine God asking us to trust that whatever is inscribed and sealed for us in the Sefer HaChayim is for our own good? If God has given each of us responsibility for completing the work of creation and helping bring holiness and betterment to the world, is it hard to imagine God asking to be forgiven for imposing such an awesome responsibility on us?

My prayer is that each of us and our families will be inscribed and sealed for a year filled with the love of the Almighty and God’s love of each of us, a year of Torah, mazel (the stars aligned for us), brachah (blessings), hatzlachah (success), parnasah (livelihood) and gezunt (good health).

I pray for a strong, vibrant and peaceful Israel under God’s sheltering protection.

I pray for a strong, vibrant and peaceful United States of America to stand as an example of freedom, liberty and hope against tyranny and oppression in so many places around the globe.

I pray that each of us will be up to any challenges the new year presents.

My prayer is that we will develop a deep appreciation for all of the blessings in our lives and take nothing for granted.

Let us be partners with God in God’s work, just as we ask God to help us in our own lives.

It may not be easy to fast, but most matters of true and enduring worth are not obtained with ease. Or, if easily obtained, they may not be fully appreciated or truly valued. May you be so focused on the meaning of Yom Kippur and so intent in achieving its purpose that the day seems short.

If you have not experienced Neilah at Adat Shalom, I encourage you to do so this year. The warmth and special holiness of the final moments of Yom Kippur are palpable. The Doors of the Ark are open and everyone has the opportunity to approach with private intensity.

G’mar chatimah tovah! Easy fast,


P.S. This Yom Kippur, there will be 2 opportunities for Torah Study (in addition to the readings in the worship). After the Rabbi’s Drasha, Ruth Bergman will teach us. Then at 3:00 p.m. Adat Shalom holds its annual “Ask the Rabbi.” Rabbi Bergman is most approachable and accessible, but this Yom Kippur tradition is a congregational favorite. So come prepared!

P.S.S. We say that Teshuvah, Tefilah and Tzedaka have the power to transform any potential harshness of our destiny. As we are partners with God in Tikkun Olam, please remember to bring Tzedaka and food items for Yad Ezra to Kol Nidre services.

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Shabbat Netzavim-Vayelech 5777–Shabbat Torah Study at Adat Shalom will feature Ruth Bergman–Standing before God

How do you approach Rosh Hashanah? One of my favorite Bible verses comes from this week’s Parasha. “Lo bashamayim he” we are told by Moshe in Deuteronomy 30:12. “It is not in the Heavens…” We learn from this that all that God expects from us is within our reach and grasp.

The Sages tell us that Netzavim always falls within a week of Rosh Hashanah exactly because God wants to remind us how important our own personal choices and decisions are to our futures and that this applies to each and every one of us.

So too, the gift of Rosh Hashanah is within our reach. How many ways can you think of that Rosh Hashanah truly is a gift? The question is what will you do with that gift? Will you unwrap it, unpack it and make a lot of use out of it? Or, will it be one that gets little attention after it is received? Will you thank the Giver of the gift? How do you express your gratitude for the priceless gift you pray to receive?

This week’s Parasha begins with the words: “You are standing TODAY day ALL OF YOU before the LORD your God.” Deuteronomy 29:9. Some say the day is Rosh Hashanah. Others say that it is EVERY DAY. Everyone agrees that it applies to each of us.

This Shabbat, we learn with our teacher Ruth Bergman who will address with us the subject of “What does it mean to stand before God? What does it mean to choose life?” 9:45 a.m. Come as you are. Stay as long as you like.

Zachreynu l’chaim, Melech chafetz b’chaim, v’chatveynu b’sefer hachaim. “Remember us for life, O King Who seeks to give life, and inscribe us in the Book of Life..”

Avinu Malkeynu, I pray for each of us to have a Shanah tovah u’metukah (“a good and sweet year”).

Shabbat shalom,


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Parshat Ki Teitzei 5777–Shabbat Torah Study–The Value of Every Mitzvah

Parshat Ki Teitzei contains more mitzvoth than any other Parasha in the Torah. It is also home to one of the most beloved mitzvoth in the Torah that speaks to a core value of Judaism. Devarim 22:6-7. We do not take the mother bird with her young. Rather, we send the mother away. This mitzvah is called Shiluach haken. The common thought is that this is an example of mercy, much like the prohibition against boiling a baby goat in its mothers’ milk. No doubt we recoil from the thought of having a mother of any kind see its children suffer or die. Rabbi Elimelech Silberberg of Bais Chabad of West Bloomfield shared a midrash with me that, in addition to mercy, the core value of sending the mother away was actually Tikkun Olam. There is a midrash that explains that we do not take the mother with the young to save her to keep the species alive and to reproduce in the future, that taking the mother with the young can lead to extinction of a species. A midrash written down more than 2000 years ago speaks of environmental sustainability!
No doubt we are, as they say, Rachmanim b’nai Rachmanim—Merciful people who come from merciful people AND as merciful people we have an obligation to care for our planet and all of God’s creations.

Tomorrow we learn with D. Melissa Ser. 9:45 a.m. in the Shiffman Chapel. Come as you are. Stay as long as you like. We finish in time for the Rabbi’s sharing of Shabbat wisdom.

Shabbat shalom,


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Shabbat Parashat Shoftim 5777–Paul Magy’s Shabbat Torah Study E-drasha in the D–Our Battle Cry!

This week’s Parasha, like many, brings modern insights out of ancient rituals.

When Israelites were going to war, a Kohen would say to the troops:

Shema Yisrael! (“Hear O Israel”) You are about to join battle with your enemy. Let not your courage falter. Do not be in fear or in panic or in dread of them. For it is the Lord your God who marches with you to do battle for you against your enemy to bring you victory.”

Deuteronomy 20:2-4.

Just as with a real war, when we are told “Shema Yisrael”—God is with us, we say Shema Yisrael EVERY DAY (hopefully twice) to remember that God is with each of us every day, in each of our struggles and personal battles and in everything we do.

Chasidus speaks of our daily lives as a struggle and battle against the forces of evil and its twin step-brothers apathy and complacency. Shema Yisrael—God is with us as we do battle with those forces in the hopes of making the world a better place.

We know that our daily lives are filled with choices, some easy and mundane, some challenging and painful, some with far reaching consequences. Some of our choices require very thoughtful analysis and decision making. Some of our choices require decisions that involve personal struggle.

Remember though, “Shema Yisrael”—do not fear or panic—God marches with you. How do you feel when you say it? Try it.

Tomorrow’s Shabbat Torah Study will be led by our teacher Ruth Bergman on the topic of “Due Process and Deuteronomy.” She states, “We will look at what the Torah demands in terms of investigation, witnesses, and moral character of the judges. Laws of the king—that he is under the law, not above it—what to do in cases of negligent homicide, and what to do when a body is found and no one knows who did it.” This promises to be a fascinating discussion.

9:45 a.m. in the Shiffman Chapel. Come as you are. Stay as long as you like. We finish in time for the Rabbi’s sharing of Shabbat wisdom.

Shabbat shalom,


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